I read an excellent and touching article in the New York Times entitled “Down the Basement Stairs and Into the Past.” The author recounts his experiences when decluttering and downsizing memorabilia. As a professional organizer, I help people go through boxes, bags, and bins of their collection of souvenirs, inherited items, and gifts from loved ones. If there is one thing I have learned, sorting through and decluttering boxes filled with memories is an emotional experience for everyone. Based on my observations and years of experience, I’ve provided some tips on decluttering and downsizing memorabilia.
When You Find Memorabilia
Sorting through memorabilia is time-consuming and can be emotionally draining. Therefore, when you find them, it is perfectly okay to box them up and deal with them later, especially when the emotions are too acute. Actually, this is ideal if there is a sudden death or downsizing in the family. However, you must plan when and how to deal with these sentimental items because they may deteriorate if you store them for too long.
Expectations and Preparations
As mentioned in the New York Times article, downsizing memorabilia is a Sentimental Journey. Set aside an hour or two and do as much as you feel you can. Do not expect to get through everything in one day – or even part of a day. It is a marathon, not a sprint.
Just like any journey, you need to prepare for decluttering and downsizing memorabilia. Create a safe and comfortable space. Get yourself a drink and snacks. Have garbage bags and recycle bins nearby to clear as you go. Keep a box of tissues handy for those sad moments and maybe a few old dishes to smash if you need to vent some anger.
Some people prefer decluttering and downsizing memorabilia on their own. That is quite all right. However, recognize when you are reaching the “emotionally overwhelmed” point and take a break. Make sure you have someone you can turn to if you need help dealing with your feelings.
A friend or family member can be a helpful partner on your sentimental journey. Choose a supportive, non-judgmental person who will know when you need a shoulder to cry on or when to kick you in the pants and tell you to move on.
If you are working with family members to declutter and downsize an estate, a neutral objective third party may be valuable to moderate the conversation and minimize stressful situations.
The Process
As you sort, I suggest dividing your items into these categories:
I want to keep this item. This category is for items that “spark joy” in your life and things you would use frequently. Examples would be your grandparents’ silver menorah or Aunt Bertha’s slow cooker.
I want to keep the memory of this item. Sometimes an item “sparks joy,” but realistically, you have no space for it in your life, or it is broken beyond your ability to repair it. A good example might be an antique sewing machine that your grandmother used to teach you to sew. You have no space for it in your home so take several pictures. Create a collage of photos of your grandmother, the clothing she made, and the sewing machine. You’ll have a heartful of happy memories but not a house full of clutter.
I will hold this item for someone else. During estate clearing, we often have to save things for other people until they have the chance to make a decision. If this is the case, carefully wrap and box the pieces. Label them and store them securely. Create some reminders for yourself to message the intended recipients that they need to sort through the box or arrange for shipping/storage out of your space by a specific date.
I can’t decide on this item yet. It is tough to make keep/toss decisions about memorabilia. Emotional attachment is normal. If you’re having trouble, err on the side of caution and keep the items. Store them securely and label the box. Write a date on the calendar three or six months from now to go through the items again. You may find it easier to decide the second (or third, or fourth) time around.
I can let this go. You will find things that have little or no meaning or maybe conjure up some bad vibes. Let those items go. Recycle or donate them if possible. Send them to the landfill as a last resort.
Enjoy the Journey
Just like the author of the New York Times article, take the time and savour the process of decluttering and downsizing your memorabilia. You may rekindle friendships or throw yourself back into a forgotten but delightful hobby. Enjoy!
If you need assistance with estate clearing or downsizing, contact the Out of Chaos team through our website.
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